DeEscalWild: A Real-World Benchmark for Automated De-Escalation Training with SLMs

Effective de-escalation is critical for law enforcement safety and community trust, yet traditional training methods lack scalability and realism. While Large Language Models (LLMs) enable dynamic, open-ended simulations, their substantial computational footprint renders them impractical for deployment on the lightweight, portable hardware required for immersive field training. Small Language Models (SLMs) offer a viable real-time alternative but suffer from a critical scarcity of high-quality, domain-specific training data. To bridge this gap, we present DeEscalWild, a novel benchmark dataset curated from a multi-stage pipeline of in-the-wild police-civilian interactions extracted from publicly available video repositories. Starting with 5,000 raw inputs, we employed a rigorous hybrid filtering process combining human-in-the-loop verification with LLM-as-a-Judge evaluation to distill 1,500 high-fidelity scenarios. The resulting corpus comprises 285,887 dialogue turns, totaling approximately 4.7 million tokens. Extensive experiments demonstrate that SLMs fine-tuned on this data significantly outperform their base counterparts across ROUGE-L, BLEU-4, METEOR, BERTScore, Realism Score, and human evaluation metrics. Notably, our fine-tuned Qwen 2.5 (3B-Instruct) surpasses the general-purpose Gemini 2.5 Flash model when evaluated under equivalent conditions, demonstrating that domain-optimized SLMs can achieve superior performance with a fraction of the computational cost. This work establishes the foundational infrastructure for accessible, low-latency, and privacy-preserving officer training systems at the edge. We publicly release our code and dataset.